That’s the real question to ask people. Anything else is a waste.
There’s wisdom in seeking to know where people are coming from and what they have chosen to believe. It is a show of emotional maturity and a way to insulate yourself from unnecessary labour loss.
When you understand that people see things first not from the way it appears but the way they are, that subjectivity is what we will have to filter through in our interactions with people, otherwise, we wouldn’t get much achieved in any way.
So first things first, make an audit of the person on the listening side – try to understand their world view and biases. Then use that as a measuring line on how far you are willing to engage.